Hi, I am Tirule Roberts

The founder and CEO of Rebirth Inc. 

Cheating, abuse, death threats, public arrest, devaluing, manipulation, infidelity, lies and more, I experienced them all at once by the very person who promised love, loyalty and support for better or for worse. 

Sharing my story wasn’t an easy decision, but staying silent doesn't help anyone. My purpose is to use my story to empower people and spark change, so good fathers who experienced domestic abuse or injustice can feel seen, heard and supported. 

If you walk into almost any family courtroom in the UK, you will hear that decisions are made in the child’s best interests and that the system is unbiased. However, for many fathers, this isn’t the reality. 

For clarification, this is not about vilifying women. This is about equality. I know many exceptional women who are loving mothers, and they agree that systemic bias exists. A quick Google search will show that numerous UK law firms have publicly acknowledged that bias against men is not limited to one-off cases, but is a recurring pattern involving organisations such as Cafcass, NYAS, Social Services, and, at times, the judges. 

I’ve experienced it myself, and here is my story.

The Background

Imagine spending years dedicating your life to someone you thought was your soulmate, only to discover you never truly knew them - only the version they wanted you to see.

In 2023, I was elated to welcome our daughter into the world, I fell madly in love all over again with my beautiful baby girl. Shortly after, I was told I had cancer. While trying to process this, my wife of 10 years said she wanted a divorce, and it was my fault because I chose to lose weight and prioritise my health.

The Abuse, Arrest & Affair

Suddenly, she started abusing me - calling me a black bastard, an African asshole, a narcissist, and even mocking my cancer diagnosis. Then she did the unthinkable, she took our 10 month old baby out in her car and sent me voice messages describing how she was going to kill her. 

In addition to this, she launched a smear campaign portraying herself as the victim of a toxic marriage while casting me as the villain. This narrative was used to gain sympathy, manipulate others, and recruit allies against me

When I reported the threats to kill our daughter to Social Services, I was told no action would be taken because the threats were verbal. In other words, intervention would only occur if she actually acted upon it. I was shocked. If I’d have made the same threats as a man, I’m convinced that they would’ve responded differently.

As I tried to understand what had driven her to such behaviour, I uncovered the truth: she was cheating. To avoid any guilt and take accountability, she blamed me for her behaviour because I chose to lose weight and prioritised my health. When I challenged this, she changed her story and said the marriage was toxic and I was a narcissist. The affair itself was short-lived, but the damage it caused to me, my stepson, and our daughter was permanent.

The Family Court 

Despite my ex-wife being arrested for domestic abuse and charged with threatening to kill our daughter, all it took during our child arrangements proceedings was for her to portray herself as the victim and accuse me of abuse. From that moment, I was treated differently.

This experience opened my eyes to the injustice many men face in the family court system. According to the Samaritans, suicide is the leading cause of death for men under the age of 50 in the UK. Men are particularly vulnerable following separation or divorce. 

Through my journey, I’ve met fathers from all walks of life - medical consultants, fitness experts, soldiers, directors etc and they all shared a common experience: bias from Cafcass, NYAS, and Social Services. Some explained that they ended up in debt and were further controlled by their ex-partners financially and emotionally by the very legal system that they turned to for help.

The Rebirth & Mission

While at rock bottom, I entered a process that i mow call ‘The Rebirth’. I went into isolation and faced myself in the worst way imaginable. 

During this process, I destroyed the old version of myself piece by piece and gave birth to the new version of me. I transformed pain into purpose. I became more resilient, more disciplined, mentally sharper, physically stronger, and relentlessly focused on something bigger than myself.

Rebirth Inc was born from this transformation, going from pain to power. 

As explained earlier, our mission is simple but powerful: to spark a change, make fathers feel heard and help both men and women reclaim their strength when life tries to break them. 

If you’ve been treated unfairly by the system, you can share your story with me by emailing Tirule.roberts@rebirthinc.com.